Unsticking for Individuals
Coaching for career, relationships and life
Be Yourself... with more skill™
Be AWARE, WILLING and ABLE©
1 BE AWARE
Awareness is the foundation on which all personal development, improvement and change is built. From a behavioural perspective it can include awareness of ourselves, others, or of how we come across. From an ability perspective it can mean awareness of our skills at certain activities. Awareness comes from reliable data: views from friends or colleagues, feedback, appraisals or online tools and apps that we can do ourselves. Using Apps like the Personality Express suite of tools (accessible via the link below) can lend insight to our preferences and likely behaviour... and how it will impact others.
Tap here to visit the PERSONALITY EXPRESS website
(Kind of 1a...) ACKNOWLEDGE
Data becomes information, becomes knowledge, becomes wisdom. We need to convert the data we collect on ourselves into wisdom. We can chose to believe what the data tell us, or not. But to make use of them, we need to interpret, acknowledge and accept what the data tell us about ourselves. This isn't always easy, as we may resist acknowledging truths that are unpalatable. We may be tempted to go into denial, or to pretend a problem is someone else's fault when we know deep down it is ours. A good coach will facilitate this process, help us to acknowledge the data we collect on ourselves, and help us to translate it into wisdom.
2 BE WILLING
All the awareness (and acknowledgement) in the world won't make a difference unless we see a benefit in doing something about what we find. What's the benefit of changing our behaviour, or of learning new skills? The benefit normally has to be to us if we are going to do anything about it. Maybe there will be indirect benefits to others... our friends, family, our employer... but there has to be something in it for us. A good coach will help us separate benefits from features, and challenge us on answers to the important questions. For example: "What happens if I change... and what happens if I don't?"
3 BE ABLE
Once we are motivated about changing our current situation we want to take action. This could be making a change in behaviour, undertaking some training, going travelling, changing career, any number of things. This may sound the simple bit. Simple maybe, but not always easy. A good coach will help you hatch and deliver a plan, help you prioritise, and help measure the improvement it makes. The coach will be there to make sure you don't give up. Proper coaching is a supportive relationship, not a directive one. A good coach may give some insights and counsel, and will ask good questions. You'll more likely find answers with a coach's guidance.